You'll know it when you feel it Despite being one of the richest nations on earth, many communities in Australia face entrenched poverty, ongoing dispossession, marginalisation, racism, violence, addiction & a range of other barriers to health & wellbeing. I grew up in a socially disadvantaged community & have experienced firsthand, the difficulties of leading a life beyond its hardships. Our choices were limited; violent relationships & becoming a mother young seemed normal & the dream to ‘leave & start a new life’ also meant leaving our family, friends & close-knit community behind. As a result, the challenges faced by young women became a particular concern to me. Our notion of ‘love’ is handed down through generations of fairy tales, pink Barbie Dolls and the idea of living ‘happily ever after’. Being without love in an environment where belonging is critical, can leave a woman vulnerable. Yet, rather than understanding the complexities of social disadvantage, women shoulder the blame for being homeless, beaten, pregnant or addicted to drugs. This has led me to explore the tensions between love, longing and belonging. ‘You’ll know it when you feel it’, is part of a long-term on-going project which aims to accentuate the complexities & cyclical nature of social disadvantage in Australia. Providing glimpses into the lived experience of young women, their families, achievements and struggles, this chapter is a reflection of loss, hope, vulnerability and resilience.